If you're on the lookout for a guide to help you navigate your relationship, then you can't go wrong with The Masculine in Relationship by GS Youngblood. This book is an exceptional resource for both men and women who want to develop a deeper understanding of the male psyche and how it shapes their relationships.
The author draws on his own experiences as a relationship coach to provide an insightful and practical look into some of the common issues that men face when it comes to love, sex, and intimacy. Youngblood emphasizes the importance of communication in any relationship and offers helpful tips on how to communicate effectively. He notes that many men are not taught how to communicate in a way that fosters healthy relationships, and as a result, they struggle. However, he provides strategies to help men be more open and honest with their partners, which is essential in building trust and connection.
Here are some key takeaways from the book.
Embracing both aspects of masculinity: Here Youngblood argues that men often feel like they have to choose between being tough and in control, or being vulnerable and open. He suggests that men should embrace both aspects of masculinity and find a balance between the two.
Effective communication: There's an emphasis on the importance of communication in relationships and while that is not earth-shattering news, he provides tips on how to communicate effectively, including avoiding sarcasm or anger and using open and honest dialogue.
Building trust: Obvious or not, building trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship. So how do we do that, especially if that trust is broken? Youngblood offers to be open and transparent, follow through on commitments, and be reliable.
Sex in relationships: The author provides tips on how to improve sexual intimacy and overcome common sexual issues, such as a lack of desire or performance anxiety. He argues that sex is an important part of a relationship and that it can be used to deepen intimacy and strengthen the bond between partners.
Fatherhood: Being a good father requires a strong sense of masculinity and that men need to be present and engaged in their children's lives.
Mental health: Men's mental health is often neglected, with men being reluctant to seek help or talk about their feelings. This is why he encourages men to seek help and support if they are struggling with their mental health and provides tips on how to prioritize their mental well-being.
Honesty and transparency: Youngblood argues that honesty and transparency are essential in building trust in relationships and that trust can be broken if either partner is dishonest or untrustworthy.
In summary, I found The Masculine in Relationship a must-read for anyone looking to develop a deeper understanding of the male psyche and how it influences relationships. The book is filled with practical tips and strategies for everything listed above and much more. It truly is a roadmap for men and women looking to build strong and healthy relationships.